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Hen Mazzig on the ‘Wrong Kind of Jew’
When I meet someone new, one of the first things I tell them about myself is that I am Jewish. If the conversation progresses, I mention that I am from Israel and that my mother is Iraqi and my father is Tunisian.
This confuses most people, many Jews included. To be more precise, I am Mizrahi. Mizrahim (plural) is the term for Jews whose heritage comes from the Middle East and North Africa. Yet, few people—Jews and non-Jews alike—know who we are.
One reason for this is that, for many, Mizrahim are considered “the wrong kind of Jew.” Not only are we unfamiliar even to those with whom we share a long lineage, our culture shatters stereotypes and unspoken rules about what it means to be Jewish. At the same time, our story derails the narrative people want to propagate about Jews, antisemitism and, most controversially, Israel. The prevailing narrative in the West is that Israel is a white European country that oppresses brown people, that Jews don’t belong in the Middle East and that we came to this land to steal it from others.
I’ve been the wrong kind of Jew my entire life, and not just because of my ethnic background. I don’t keep kosher. My soon-to-be life partner is a non-Jewish man. I rarely go to temple on Friday nights. In fact, I even tweet on Shabbat.
My Mizrahi heritage doesn’t match what most people see as the secular, cultural characteristics of Judaism. For example, while I enjoy bagels, I don’t consider them my cuisine. My meals mostly consist of some combination of okra, pink beets, pumpkin, hard-boiled eggs, hummus and pita bread. My grandmother doesn’t make matzah ball soup when I’m sick, or even on the holidays. Instead, she cooks an amazing stew and dishes that most of my non-Mizrahi Jewish friends can’t pronounce, like kubbeh, tebit, aruk and sabich.
Not one of my relatives looks or sounds like Bernie Sanders, Sarah Silverman or Larry David. They more closely resemble the Arabs who owned a restaurant that was called an “antisemitic shithole” on an episode of David’s Curb Your Enthusiasm. Whether it is my beard or my olive skin, I always seem to get an extra pat-down and a few suspicious glances when going through airport security; it happens even in my home country of Israel.
I experience prejudice for being Jewish, from both Jews and non-Jews. My life has been threatened by neo-Nazis—and fellow Jews have critiqued me on the basis of my race and sexuality. There are some who do not perceive me as Jewish at all because of how I look or whom I love.
Who are the Mizrahi people, exactly? The majority of Jews in France are Mizrahim. So are many Jews in Canada and South America, and there are scattered populations across the Middle East and Central Asia, from Morocco to Azerbaijan. In total, there are more than four million Mizrahi Jews in the world, making up over 25 percent of the global Jewish population.
The biggest community of Mizrahim is in Israel. We are a majority of the country’s Jews—between three and four million—and our unique culture and history have a significant impact on the country’s food, politics and music. Truthfully, you cannot understand Israel, or what it means to be Jewish in the 21st century, if you don’t understand Mizrahim.
That Mizrahim are the dominant cultural force in Israel today is a giant leap forward from the middle of the last century, when we were expelled from countries like Morocco, Tunisia, Libya, Syria, Iraq, Iran, Yemen and others—places where we’d lived for centuries. In those countries, we spoke Jewish languages that blended Hebrew with elements of Arabic, Persian and Spanish: Judeo Iraqi Arabic, Judeo Farsi and Ladino.
Our connection to religion is different as well. When and if Mizrahim broke away from traditional religious observance, it wasn’t clean. We didn’t create new denominations, like Reform Judaism, the way the Jews of Germany did; we didn’t follow Conservative Judaism, the response of American Jews to new trends in academic scholarship. Rather, we established a fluid kind of traditionalism, adopting and changing but putting Jewish people, our tradition and our history above all else.
We inspired an entire genre of music from Sarit Hadad to Omer Adam and Ofra Haza that today is more popular than Western-style pop.
When it comes to food—this may seem trivial but is very emotional to me—we were the ones who infused Israeli cuisine with hummus and the Mediterranean flavors the country is known for. We did this not because we wanted to imitate others, but because it was our culture.
Mizrahim brought our Middle Eastern cuisine with us to Israel, just as surely as the European Jews brought their smoked whitefish and bialys to New York City.
The Holocaust is one experience that we sadly share with Ashkenazim. And while the details differ, many in our communities also suffered atrocities. During World War II, Morocco, Algeria and Tunisia were, for much of the war, ruled by the Nazis, either directly or through the French Vichy government. Many were sent to camps, including my Tunisian grandparents, who worked at a forced labor camp and would have been sent off for extermination had the war not ended just days before the transport was supposed to leave.
Even in places where the swastika never flew, we were victims of the war. In June 1941, a pogrom known as the Farhud victimized Iraqi Jews. For two days, my grandparents’ community was under attack, and many of their neighbors were murdered, raped and dispossessed. The atrocity was inspired and directed by Haj Amin al-Husseini, a Palestinian Arab nationalist and the grand mufti of Jerusalem in British-ruled Mandatory Palestine. He frequently traveled to Germany, rubbed elbows with Adolf Hitler and was as much an ally to the Nazis as was Benito Mussolini.
One reason why you may not have heard much about these experiences, and Mizrahim in general, is that most stories told about Jewish history, the Holocaust and Israel don’t include us. We are the blind spot in every narrative about Israel, including stories that Israelis tell themselves. For decades, we were dismissed by the Ashkenazi elites as a primitive variation on the Arabs who have always been the country’s primary “other.”
We’re largely missing from the Zionist depictions of Israel in the Diaspora, too. These stories are always centered around the Israel of David Ben-Gurion, Golda Meir, Yitzhak Rabin and Shimon Peres, all Ashkenazi Jews with a Eurocentric view of the country. As a result, we’re often excluded from the talking points about anti-Zionism, antisemitism and other rhetoric of the pro-Israel community.
If you think Jews are a nefarious cabal of secular, leftist globalists going after your guns, religion and unborn children, it turns out that Mizrahim are actually fairly religious and right wing. If you think Israel is a European, white supremacist, colonial enterprise that appropriates Arab culture, consider the Mizrahim, who are neither European nor white and have for decades been the biggest force behind Israel’s shifting political and cultural landscape. Election studies in recent years show that Israeli towns with a majority of Mizrahi families have supported Benjamin Netanyahu’s Likud Party at a rate as much as 30 percent higher than majority-Ashkenazi towns.
And if you think all Jews are the beneficiaries of white privilege, Mizrahi Jews aren’t any more white, physically or socially, than the other Middle Easterners who are among those who make this claim. We didn’t grow up with privilege.
We suffered both economic hardship as well as intense discrimination in our countries of origin, and still do today in Israel.
This is my story, the story of someone with a rich, self-confident identity who, in many ways, has been made to feel invisible in the global conversation about Israel. Yes, I’m also gay, nationalist, proud, progressive and, of course, Jewish. But the thing about me that really upsets people—which took me years to understand—is that by simply being Mizrahi, I am a living, breathing challenge to everybody’s pet narrative about Israel. Perhaps if I were the only Mizrahi who feels this way, the book I wrote would just be a memoir. But it’s not just me.
Mizrahim don’t need a history book. We don’t need a memoir. We need a manifesto.
Without Mizrahim, the Jewish story is incomplete. It’s more than just our history, cuisine and culture that needs to be understood and recognized.
My story dives deep into the real contradictions of our Mizrahi lives, grapples with the invisibility that taints our experiences and explores concrete ways we can achieve full equality and dignity. The Mizrahi experience cannot be boiled down to a simple assortment of artifacts under plexiglass at a museum. It is a powerful force that we must take out of its case and touch, and maybe even leave a few fingerprints.
While we are not asking for much, some Mizrahim will feel uncomfortable reading this. They may say that my advocacy for our recognition and respect is bad for the Jewish community, or even claim that we should focus on what unites us as Jews even if it results in the exclusion of Mizrahi heritage.
The truth is that Ashkenazi and Mizrahi are not racial identities. Blackness and Ashkenazi heritage are not opposites. The same goes for Mizrahi—although all of us originated from the Middle East diaspora, we are a multitude of races.
The Jews of Kaifeng, China, originate from Iran, so they are Asian and Mizrahi. Sephardi communities cross racial lines as well; while many Sephardi Jews are from Latin America or North Africa, many others are white-skinned with origins in Spain and Portugal.
I’ve argued that Mizrahim share a heritage and identity, but I also believe the same goes for me and other Jews of color. We all experience racism in addition to antisemitism and have shared experiences within and outside the Jewish community. None of us will see our faces as the “default Jew” on a Jewish holiday card outside of Israel and Jews like us rarely appear in movies or on television.
It is in the best interest of Mizrahim to identify as Jews of color and to deliberately join forces with those communities. However, we must overcome major obstacles to get there. The first is colorism. While some Mizrahim are very dark-skinned, others have lighter complexions. The hatred of us is often rooted in orientalism, which is the study of the East, particularly the Middle East, by Western scholars with an outsider, often prejudiced and colonial perspective. This bias is expressed in how other Jews talk down our food as basic and too spicy while eating plates of it and appropriating it, along with our language and traditions.
The second issue is that there is a political schism between Mizrahi Jews and many other Jews of color. Mizrahim, particularly those in Israel, have largely adopted a very right-wing political outlook, while many other Jews of color primarily lean left. It’s important to understand that this is an outcome of our specific traumas.
Since most Jews of the Middle East come from families that have been brutalized and exiled from Arab countries, they tend to be hawkish in their approach toward Hamas, the Palestinian Authority, Iran and those Arab states that support terror against Israel. Young Mizrahim are at war with the very people who murdered and expelled our grandparents. The animosity is deep. I’ve found that this sentiment stretches far beyond Israel and includes my Mizrahi friends in Los Angeles and Great Neck, N.Y.
To get to where we need to be, we Mizrahim must follow the lead of our ancestors, from as far back as the Exodus to the modern-day departure of Jews from Arab lands. In ancient times, they walked across the desert with tattered shoes and huddled in tents without basic necessities because they knew that they deserved nothing less than full equality. More recent generations leaving their birthplaces showed they were willing to do anything necessary to achieve liberation. Today, I’m calling on everyone to follow in the honorable footsteps of our ancestors.
It’s time that the Mizrahi story is told fully and that the rest of world Jewry listens. I call on all to love Mizrahi Jews as much as you love the food that we cook, the music that we compose, the history that we’ve lived, the country that we’ve helped build and the soul we gave to her. If you do this, your love will be reciprocated.
Hen Mazzig is an Israeli writer and the co-founder of the Tel Aviv Institute, which combats antisemitism online. His first book, The Wrong Kind of Jew: A Mizrahi Manifesto, from which this excerpt was adapted, was published in October by Wicked Son Press.
Dorothy Rabinowitz says
Wonderfully written. My sister-in-law is a Sabra from Iraqi Jewish Heritage. My brother is Ashkenazi. They fell in love & have beautiful grown children & grandchildren now. I always thought they had the best of both worlds. Thank you for speaking your mind. Wow! Here I thought the problem with being Jewish was marrying a Jew-by-choice. That’s a whole ‘nother topic.
Ken Caudell says
To Dorothy:
The Talmud tells us to consider the convert the same as Jews by birth. I fail to see how a marriage between the two could be considered a problem.
Ayala says
@ Ken Caudell- “Converted”?? Do you mean an non-Jew married a Jew? Who is the non-Jew in the couple that you refer to? “the Iraqi sabra” or the “Ashkenazi”?
I think that you missed the entire idea of the above reply…
Zoe says
I think you missed his point. He was replying to Dorothy who wrote, ” Wow! Here I thought the problem with being Jewish was marrying a Jew-by-choice. That’s a whole ‘nother topic.” She mentioned “Jew by choice” meaning someone converted. He said there’s no problem; a convert is considered as Jewish as someone born Jewish.
Linda Prince says
I just found my Hadassah magazine from March and read your article. I am incredibly, deeply inspired by you!! You call for us to:
“to love Mizrahi Jews as much as you love the food that we cook, the music that we compose, the history that we’ve lived, the country that we’ve helped build and the soul we gave to her. If you do this, your love will be reciprocated.“
I say we should LOVE all Jews, converts, Mizrahim, Ashkenazi, diaspora, of color, white, neon green, it should not matter from where we come any more than the color of our skin! WE ARE ALL ONE JEWISH PEOPLE!!! It’s impossible to ask other goyim to love and respect us when we barely love and respect each other!!! No wonder we war and fight battles, political and otherwise and on every front, if this is how we treat each other!!!
My daughter graduates this year with a Music Theorpy undergraduate and will continue on as a rabbinic student, thereafter. She happens to also be pansexual. Since she was 12 and had her bat mitzvah, she has wanted to be a rabbinic cantor so she could lead her own congregation in both capacities. She has wanted to open it to ALL JEWS of every walk. People with tattoos and piercing (thanks to another Hadassah magazine article years ago, Jews with Tattoos), alternative lifestyles, even non Jews whom want to connect with their roots to better understand each other. My husband, her older brother and I have been impressed with her since she was young and inspired us to be our best selves. We’ve always known she would change the world for the better. I read your article and immediately gave it to her to understand the Jewish world, at large and to incorporate your call to arms into hers!
I hope and pray we can change the world together with your impactful article!! Thank you for challenging us to level up and again, be our best selves!!! It’s time to learn and grow as one people!!!
May you be blessed!!! Linda